Shaken to the core!

Last week some activities of our sub-division neighbors was brought to our attention.  It shook us (hubby & me) up to the point of where we are still shaking our heads.  A woman and a man from two couples decided to inter-tangle with one another in an affair.  Now that happens everywhere and at anytime, but why is this shaking us to the core?


I have known people, even family members, that have had affairs with others and it's caused the break-up of marriages.  These didn't bother me as much, but this is the first time that I have known all four people involved. 


I have know people that have had affairs with others when they were younger and not married very long.  These didn't bother me as much, but this situation involves people over sixty years old and one couple has been married 42 years. 


I have know people that have hot and heavy sex lives when they were younger, but the libido wanes as a person ages.   This situation involves people over sixty years old having sex.  Does this give me hope or despair?  Despair in the fact that being over sixty does not guarantee that your spouse will stay faithful. 


Yes, I'm shaking my head in disbelief and despair.  It's tough "pill" to swallow seeing two couples lives change so dramatically.... divorce, selling homes, moving across the country, and most importantly, never having the kind of relationship and friendship that there was in the past.  Those changes are happening to the four and yet being a bystander to all this is not easy either.  What do I say?  What do I do?  Who do I believe? 

I do know that this situation has given a lot of us an opportunity to talk with our spouse and truly share our thoughts, feelings and fears.  As hubby says, "We're stuck with each other."  I'm glad and thankful!

Days, days and daze!

Apparently today was Start! Walking day.  I guess the "national organization of choosing what to celebrate today" decided that it's been three months since the New Year and all of our start-walking resolutions, so they made up a "day" to remind us.  This week is Patient Access week, where we honor and celebrate the registration and admissions staff at hospitals, of which I'm proud to be a "member."  Next week is Volunteer week, next month we have Hospital week and Nurse's day, etc, etc.  Those are the "days" that some may not have heard of unless they work in the healthcare setting.  But we've all heard of Bosses Day, Sweetest Day, Secretary's (now Administrative Professional) day which is the day before Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work day. I have a nickname for these type of days.... Hallmark holidays.... a way to sell more greeting cards.


Speaking of days, we look forward to certain days, whether they are national holidays or personal holidays.  Personal holidays like anniversaries, birthdays, start of vacation day and other events we consider major.   My "niece" likes to do a count-down of days until the events in her life.  She counts down to weekend camping trips, annual family cookie bake, and other fun things.  There are even count-down clock/calendars on the internet so a person does not have to manually count up the number of days.  I have been counting down the days until vacation and more importantly the number of days to retirement. 


Sometimes, I feel that I'm wishing the days would go by so fast that I miss out on the journey and adventure of each day.  As in starting to walk, I focus so much on being done with the walk or completing a mile, that I miss the beauty of the area I'm walking through or I miss the cool breezes on my face.   I seem to be so focused on dates and  times of the future, that I'm afraid that I will suddenly find myself old, with no recollection of how I got this old!  It's like my life is in a daze.